There are trends in photography, as there are in every aspect of life. Beyond the imagery fads and fashions there are movements that seek to make social change.
Ten years ago, I saw a need in myself to feel beautiful. I was 250 pounds and terrified of any photos taken. They showed me a self I could not glimpse in mirrors. I clearly knew I was heavy, but I felt the photos made me look much larger than what I saw in the mirror. I'm now a firm believe that cameras do not work the same as the human eye, brain and heart in unison. I knew I had to find beauty in myself and world to make the weight gain make any sense. And I knew deep in my bones that I had to make peace with myself, as heavy as I was, to lose the weight and keep it off.
So I turned to photography. I started with my baby sister and my sweet dog, Bear. I started with butterflies, European sculptures, fountains, and flowers. I read my Dad’s Olympus 3000 point and shoot manual so many times the pages became worn and weathered. I learned about depth of field, apertures and lighting. I started to force the camera to my will. Progress was slow, but deeply satisfyin. Learning Photoshop became a full time job. I was desperate to get people and scenes to look as beautiful as I remembered them.
During this time, my Mom wanted me to see how beautiful I was to her. She got my baby sister and I photo sessions with Glamour Shots...
And it was one of the single most humiliating things I’ve ever experienced. The staff was not trained in posing, lighting or even hair and makeup. They were trained to corral you through the process like cash cows. They did over the top heavy makeup that made my features look alien, terrible unflattering lighting, and cheesy posing. I still can't bear to look at those photos. For to look is to remember how baffled they were as they tried to make me look thinner. "Contour her nose, it looks too fat!" “Turn this way!” “Don’t smile so big!” “Put your chin down!” The directions came fast and angry as they let me know without words how un-glamorous, unattractive and beyond hope I was. All the while dropping compliments on my (stunningly-gorgeous-could-make-models-weep) teenage sister.
The shame and pain of that day left a mark deep inside my heart. The mark burns when I see someone being teased for what they’re wearing. It itches when I hear a beautiful woman insult herself. The mark seeks to show others that they are beautiful beyond their own belief. Even 81 pounds lighter, I still feel trapped inside that girl who was beyond Glamour Shot’s professional expertise.
My Mom wanted me to see how beautiful I was... While that day was a tragic failure, it helped me discover my life’s work. And so she gave me an even greater gift. I became a seeker. I sought to help other women see their true beauty. I seek to show my clients how they look through the lens of love. As our loved ones see us with beauty in focus and flaws gently out of focus
This is the next trend in photography. It’s our next revolution. Nearly everyone you meet will have a story about feeling less than. It will be a story that has stayed with them no matter how much they have changed. Undoing this damage is our job as photographers.
As a society, we are tired of the shallow, materialistic way we have lived. The recession has taken it’s toll on everyone. We all want desperately to mean something and feel meaning. The photographers who can tap into this need and fill it will find success and feed their souls. Gone are the days of describing photo sessions in dollar and photo amounts. Gone are the days of expecting your reputation alone to bring clients in the door.
The magic is when you can help someone see something they’ve forgotten or have never seen. That’s where the great photographers of the past always were and where the future of photography will be.
This post is a rather long-winded but necessary introduction to a new series for this blog. We’re going to bring in women who have had portraits taken and find out how they felt about themselves before, during and after their photo shoots. I want women everywhere to know they are not alone and that there is hope to be at peace with how we see ourselves. It’s called The Pin Up Experience. Watch our blog over the next two weeks to see our first amazing participant.